In some households, workplaces, Boards, communities and so on the lack of peaceful relationships takes an enormous toll on those involved and others around us, too. We may crave peace but feel helpless to know how to build it. We may realize that doing nothing when conflict evolves is a useless exercise, but it also means we are contributing to peacelessness.
In what ways do you think you may contribute to or increase peacefulness in your home or workplace?
Some couples, families and work teams state – with apparent pride – “we never fight”. However, this may translate into a lack of acceptance that conflict is normal and that fighting for or over things important to us is part of the human condition. Knowing what others need and want to authentically connect over differences makes it more possible we will reach such an acceptance.
In what ways do you not accept conflict?
When we decide to go on a holiday, to a movie, or do something else on impulse, we more often than not enjoy the spontaneous decision. The same principle doesn’t usually apply to our reactions in conflict though. Rather, our impulsive words, attitudes and actions are often repulsive and not memories we smile about.
How might you be less impulsive when it comes to conflict?
The importance of liking ourselves as a basic law of attraction is likely an indisputable premise. However, during conflicts we sometimes act in ways that embarrass us. It seems we have trouble restraining our words and actions at times and forget we have a choice to do so. The memory of our behaviours often weighs on us and we end up not liking ourselves for how we acted or what we said.
What will you do next time you are in a conflict that you will like about yourself?
Though having conflict with those we live and work with is a normal part of life, the way through it can present huge challenges. The thing is, most of us are able to find our way through even the bramble and dark clouds. When you think about it, it is, among other things, a matter of staying mindful of what we want to feel and what we want for the relationship when all is said and done.
What will help you stay aware of what you want to feel about yourself and your relationship to be able to find your way through a conflict?
