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Category Archives: Emotions in Conflict

Feeling Crummy About a Conflict

Before, during or after an interpersonal conflict, and sometimes in all these time periods, we feel crummy about the circumstances, ourselves and the other person. It’s an awful feeling – miserable, unsettling and upsetting, or as The Free Dictionary says … Continue reading

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The Conflict Iceberg

For this week’s blog I thought I would bring back a blog that was very popular a few years ago. So, this one is from the archives (originally posted January 22, 2013): The metaphor of an iceberg has commonly been … Continue reading

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“Lighten Up”

You may have heard someone say “lighten up” to you when you are upset in or about a conflict. At these times, the speaker is typically picking up our seriousness, intensity and/or negative feelings and seems to think telling us … Continue reading

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Control and Conflict

One of the reasons some of us shy away from engaging in interpersonal conflict is that we fear being out of control, or that the other person may become out of control. What that means varies from person to person. … Continue reading

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Hurts in Conflict

One of the reasons many of us have an aversion to conflict is because it has the potential for hurts – ours and others. In fact, it seems to be where our mind goes first when the possibility of a … Continue reading

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