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Feeling Crummy About a Conflict

Before, during or after an interpersonal conflict, and sometimes in all these time periods, we feel crummy about the circumstances, ourselves and the other person. It’s an awful feeling – miserable, unsettling and upsetting, or as The Free Dictionary says of feeling crummy – “of little value, inferior, contemptible, unwell, depressed.”

Not all these words may apply to how you feel about a conflict you were or are in at this time. But for today’s Conflict Mastery Quest(ions) blog consider one about which you would say you are feeling some sort of crummy.

  • What’s the situation you have in mind?
  • What do you feel crummy about?
  • How would you define feeling crummy in this circumstance?
  • What do you know about how the other person feels?
  • What sort of theme, if any, is there about what feels crummy to you in this situation compared to other conflicts?
  • What do you need at these times that doesn’t seem to be forthcoming?
  • What might get rid of feelings of crumminess – something you could do differently?
  • What keeps you from doing that now (your answer to the above question)?
  • What do you want to feel instead of crummy?
  • What sorts of things may you say or do to prevent crumminess for you? For the other person?
  • What else occurs to you as you consider these questions?
  • What insights do you have?


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