Temper tantrums are usually associated with children, but I expect many of us have witnessed adults display conduct that could be easily likened to an infantile outburst. This sort of behaviour is often associated with not getting our own way … Continue reading
Since experiencing high emotions in conflict usually affects our ability to think clearly, we may attribute negative motives that are not based in reality. At these times it can be challenging to respond reflectively rather than react ineffectively. Being thoughtful … Continue reading
Getting defensive when in conflict is an important signal – whether it is us or the other person. When we or the other person react defensively to something said or done we or they are defending something meaningful. We may, … Continue reading
One of the reactions to being in conflict is to freeze. It’s a state of feeling blocked and immobilized – unable to think or respond. We may also freeze by turning emotionally cold toward the other person. As a result … Continue reading
When some of us are in conflict – or even before and afterwards – we tend to complain about the other person and the things they said or did. While we might feel totally justified with our plaints, we may … Continue reading