Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

Since experiencing high emotions in conflict usually affects our ability to think clearly, we may attribute negative motives that are not based in reality. At these times it can be challenging to respond reflectively rather than react ineffectively. Being thoughtful … Continue reading →

Getting defensive when in conflict is an important signal – whether it is us or the other person. When we or the other person react defensively to something said or done we or they are defending something meaningful. We may, … Continue reading →

One of the reactions to being in conflict is to freeze. It’s a state of feeling blocked and immobilized – unable to think or respond. We may also freeze by turning emotionally cold toward the other person. As a result … Continue reading →

When some of us are in conflict – or even before and afterwards – we tend to complain about the other person and the things they said or did. While we might feel totally justified with our plaints, we may … Continue reading →

Interpersonal conflict affects us in many ways – one way being that the emotions that are activated get in our way of thinking clearly, creative problem-solving, and decision-making. Initially emotions propel high energy to assert and defend ourselves. Then, they … Continue reading →