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Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

Were you hearing?

Posted on November 20, 2012 by Cinnie Noble

After a conflict is ostensibly over, we often forget what the other person said. It may be that is was inconsequential to us and so, we dismiss it. We may not retain what was said due to the need to … Continue reading →

Posted in Listening | 2 Comments

Peeling back the onion

Posted on November 13, 2012 by Cinnie Noble

Interpersonal disputes are multi-layered and an onion is an apt metaphor to describe the many dimensions of conflict. An onion also reflects the many layers of the other person and of us. Our hearts and brains, our spiritual being, our … Continue reading →

Posted in Metaphors, Positive Conflict | 9 Comments

Being curious in conflict

Posted on November 6, 2012 by Cinnie Noble

One of the things that happens when we are masterful in conflict is we not only listen carefully and thoughtfully to what is being said and felt. We are also willing to be curious and hear what is going on … Continue reading →

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Giving people the benefit of the doubt

Posted on October 30, 2012 by Cinnie Noble

As soon as we begin to react to someone who provokes us there are options about how to proceed. One of those is to give the person the benefit of the doubt. This expression apparently refers to the legal phrase … Continue reading →

Posted in Attributions, Emotions in Conflict | 2 Comments

Conflict – Fact or Fiction

Posted on October 23, 2012 by Cinnie Noble

Our perceptions of what actually occurred in a dispute are not all that reliable in the aftermath of hurtful interactions. Our emotional experiences of conflict have a huge impact on us and one of the results is that our perspective … Continue reading →

Posted in Conflict Perceptions, Truth in Conflict | 4 Comments