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Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

Throwing Dirt

Posted on June 4, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

When in conflict we commonly turn our negative energy on the other person in various ways. Examples may be by gossiping about her or him, blaming, name-calling, and generally saying counterproductive and mean-spirited things to and about her or him. … Continue reading →

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“That’s Not Fair”

Posted on May 28, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

One of the common statements that occurs in conflict is, “that’s not fair”. It may be a response to an action that is seen – according to our sensibilities, values, and beliefs – as wrong. It may be an emotional … Continue reading →

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Fears about Tears

Posted on May 21, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

When some of us get upset we cry. It’s just what happens. Crying is considered by some to be gender and sometimes culture specific. However, in my coaching work I have seen both men and women from a wide range … Continue reading →

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You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar

Posted on May 14, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

I was fairly young when I first heard the idiom ‘you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar’. It was one of my mother’s pearls of wisdom. Her name was Pearle and so, she took her name seriously … Continue reading →

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Conflict Resilience

Posted on May 7, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

The aftermath of conflict is fraught with ongoing tension for many. Even when a situation is resolved, it is common that residual feelings and thoughts prevail. Hurt, anger, disappointment, and other emotions that linger reflect unresolved needs for which blame … Continue reading →

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