As we develop our conflict styles over the years, we also tend to create narratives about our interactions. The scripts we write for ourselves typically suit us by, for instance, playing down our role if it’s not so great. This … Continue reading
We often talk about walking in the other person’s shoes as a way of understanding where they are coming from and gaining empathy along the way. It’s one of those pat phrases that seems to make sense. Think about it … Continue reading
The thing about asking for forgiveness is that the receiver may not forgive. As we know, it’s not a simple request and apologizing or saying “I’m sorry” is not necessarily sufficient. There is just no guarantee – no matter how … Continue reading
Imagine a huge beautifully coloured fabric covering your conflict. Or, think of an enormous umbrella keeping you and the other person safe from a storm. Or perhaps, visualize a treehouse sitting high up in a person-made oak tree overlooking a … Continue reading
Sometimes during an interpersonal conflict we sound like we are in a court of law. We make our points in dogmatic ways, act as though no other position could possibly be considered, and convey an expectation that the other person … Continue reading