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BEING CREATIVE IN CONFLICT

Posted on August 30, 2016 by Cinnie Noble

For this final Tuesday in August, please find below the fifth most popular blog from 2015. If you are inclined, please provide your comments on why you think this one was so well-received.

BEING CREATIVE IN CONFLICT

Negative emotions due to our reactions typically preclude us from thinking creatively about possible solutions to a conflict. However, effective conflict management is about finding ways to step back and get to a place of reflection. It is not an easy or straightforward transition, and it does not mean denying that we feel strongly about matters.

On reflection, what might be some creative ways to resolve matters between you and the other person regarding a current conflict?

(Originally posted September 30, 2015)

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RUNNING AWAY FROM CONFLICT

Posted on August 23, 2016 by Cinnie Noble

For this fourth Tuesday of August (as I am taking some holiday time), please find below the fourth most popular blog from 2015. If you are inclined, please provide your comments on why you think this one was so well-received.

RUNNING AWAY FROM CONFLICT

Running away from conflict is more than avoiding the tension, the disagreement, the risk of losing the relationship. It is fleeing from it altogether – not acknowledging its existence and ignoring its impact. In some cases, running away from our interpersonal conflicts is important for our well-being. Other times it is more important to  be well within ourselves and in relation to the other person by staying and facing the dissension and together finding a way through.

How will running away from a conflict you are in or anticipating positively or negatively affect your well-being?

(Originally posted June 17, 2015)

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EXPECTING AN APOLOGY

Posted on August 16, 2016 by Cinnie Noble

Below is the third most popular blog from 2015 (as I am taking a break for August). If you are inclined, please provide your comments on why you think this one was so well-received.

EXPECTING AN APOLOGY

After a conflict some of us hope the other person will apologize to us. When one is not forthcoming we may experience renewed resentment. The apparent resolution of the conflict may no longer feel satisfying.

How might you reconcile a conflict without it requiring an apology?

(Originally posted July 10, 2015)

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CONFLICT: WHETHER TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT

Posted on August 9, 2016 by Cinnie Noble

In this second week of August while I am taking some holiday time, please find below the second most popular blog from 2015. If you are inclined, please provide your comments on why you think this one was so well-received.

CONFLICT: WHETHER TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT

Some of us prefer to let a conflict take its course. This might translate into not doing anything about it as it emerges, but rather waiting for it to defuse. Sometimes this seems to work better than other times, especially when unresolved issues and emotions linger.

What has doing nothing achieved in a conflict you have experienced?

(Originally posted on October 2, 2015)

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METAPHORS AND CONFLICT

Posted on August 2, 2016 by Cinnie Noble

While I take some holiday time this month I don’t want to lose my connection with you. So, for the next 5 Tuesdays of August I am posting the 5 most popular blogs in 2015. If you are inclined, please provide your comments on why you think this one was so well-received. This is the first most popular:

METAPHORS AND CONFLICT

Many metaphors are used to describe interpersonal conflict and our reactions. Some relate to war (shooting someone down), animals (the elephant in the room), and even food (peeling back an onion). These and others provide idiomatic expressions that are useful for redefining our conflicts, the other person, and ourselves within the dynamic.

What metaphor describes a conflict you are engaged in or your experience within it?

(Originally posted September 25, 2015)

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