Author Archives: Cinnie Noble
Nonsense or No-Sense
Sometimes in conflict we determine the other person’s perspective as ‘nonsense’. Perhaps, it isn’t ‘nonsense’. That is, something that seems to be ‘nonsense’ to us likely makes sense to the other person. Asking for clarity on her or his point … Continue reading
Proflict Not Conflict
Call me an idealist but I wonder sometimes if the word proflict (as it applies to interpersonal conflict) was used rather than conflict if we would see our arguments, fights, etc. as more positive. From wherever the negative connotations of … Continue reading
Clearing the Air
Sometimes we use an expression like “clearing the air” to describe actions after a conflict which are aimed at removing lingering tension. The phrase is an interesting visual and one that requires mutual agreement about what clear air will look … Continue reading
Bringing Up an Issue
Bringing up a difficult issue that we expect will upset the other person can be unsettling. We may bring it up – as in vomit – with all the distaste that implies. Or, we may choose to carefully and thoughtfully … Continue reading
Effective Apologizing
To be an effective apology it is important that it comes from the heart, that it is sincere and a true acknowledgement of our inappropriate and hurtful behaviour and the impact it caused the other person. Apologies do not have … Continue reading
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