Author Archives: Cinnie Noble
Bringing Up an Issue
Bringing up a difficult issue that we expect will upset the other person can be unsettling. We may bring it up – as in vomit – with all the distaste that implies. Or, we may choose to carefully and thoughtfully … Continue reading
Effective Apologizing
To be an effective apology it is important that it comes from the heart, that it is sincere and a true acknowledgement of our inappropriate and hurtful behaviour and the impact it caused the other person. Apologies do not have … Continue reading
Self-Blame
Self-blame, like guilt, can be a useless sentiment unless we learn from it. After all, it ends up being a waste of time to be hard on ourselves and fret over doing and saying things we cannot do over. What … Continue reading
Emotional Consequences
When our interpersonal conflicts arouse feelings in us, anger is commonly expressed. However, other emotions – such as disappointment, hurt, disgust, shock, betrayal and others – reflect different ways we are affected, and an identification of them often warrants further … Continue reading
Expecting an Apology
After a conflict some of us hope the other person will apologize to us. When one is not forthcoming we may experience renewed resentment. The apparent resolution of the conflict may no longer feel satisfying. How might you reconcile a … Continue reading
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