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Digging in our Heels

Posted on November 26, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

The meaning of “digging in our heels” according to one source is stubbornly resisting something or refusing to change, i.e. an opinion. The same source states that the origin is “probably related to the fact that if a person or … Continue reading →

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“I Didn’t Mean to Ruffle Your Feathers”

Posted on November 19, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

By now you will know I like metaphors and idioms as ways of providing a creative context to consider conflicts and their impact. There is something fun and interesting about doing so. What else I find is that looking at … Continue reading →

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Getting Off on the Wrong Foot

Posted on November 12, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

Getting off on the wrong foot refers to those situations that sometimes happen during first encounters with others. This may be at the beginning of a relationship, project, discussion, or any other interaction, when we find ourselves off to an … Continue reading →

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Letting Go

Posted on November 5, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

For many of us when a conflict is ostensibly over there are residual feelings and emotions. I have referred to these in previous blogs as the remnants from past conflicts that shroud future conflicts when our feelings and/or the issues … Continue reading →

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“Settle Down”

Posted on October 29, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

It often seems that phrases like, “settle down”, “just calm yourself”, “you don’t need to get upset”, etc. lead to increased defensiveness and other negative reactions, rather than less, as the speaker likely hoped. Hushing hand gestures result in the … Continue reading →

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