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Getting revved up

Posted on July 2, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

What often happens in the middle of an interpersonal conflict is that, for one reason or another, one or both people become increasingly agitated and words and emotions accelerate in intensity and negativity. This shows up in various other ways … Continue reading →

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Doing something about your conflict

Posted on June 25, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

Several years ago I began asking friends, family members, colleagues and clients what stops them from trying different things to be able to improve how they manage conflict. Of course, their answers varied. While situations and those involved elicit different … Continue reading →

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Throwing Dirt

Posted on June 4, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

When in conflict we commonly turn our negative energy on the other person in various ways. Examples may be by gossiping about her or him, blaming, name-calling, and generally saying counterproductive and mean-spirited things to and about her or him. … Continue reading →

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“That’s Not Fair”

Posted on May 28, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

One of the common statements that occurs in conflict is, “that’s not fair”. It may be a response to an action that is seen – according to our sensibilities, values, and beliefs – as wrong. It may be an emotional … Continue reading →

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Fears about Tears

Posted on May 21, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

When some of us get upset we cry. It’s just what happens. Crying is considered by some to be gender and sometimes culture specific. However, in my coaching work I have seen both men and women from a wide range … Continue reading →

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