Some conflicts stick to us. Or maybe it’s really that we cling to them. We have trouble getting over things the other person said – or the things we said. The scenarios we replay often get distorted along the way … Continue reading
Interpersonal conflict disrupts inner peace and peace in our relationships. We lose connection and the sense that things will be okay despite our differences. It can be disheartening and disappointing and fear-provoking to feel disconnected. Waiting till a conflict is … Continue reading
When in conflict we often ask questions that serve no useful purpose. Some examples are: Why did you do that? What’s wrong with you? Who do you think you are? I don’t know what answers we actually expect the other … Continue reading
Remember the phrase ‘say what you mean and mean what you say’? The thing is, sometimes things slip out and we realize we let our impulses take over. Other times we say something that is misinterpreted and we didn’t mean … Continue reading
We may think that the best way to support friends in conflict is to agree with their viewpoints, help them justify their counterproductive reactions, and badmouth the other person too. However, many of us do not find this form of … Continue reading