One way some of us assert ourselves and our viewpoints is to put the other person down. We may, for instance, demean their actions, their character, their rationale and so on. Doing so does not elevate us to a powerful … Continue reading
Whether or not we directly communicate to the other person when in conflict (or before or after it is evolving), it is usual that our bodies are conveying messages. The exact emotions and thoughts may not be directly expressed. However, … Continue reading
At times the other person in our conflicts might try to make amends and we feel resistant. It may be because we need more than she or he says by way of apologizing. Or, it may be too long after … Continue reading
Conflict can bring out the worst in us. We may get caught up in the negative dynamics and lose track of what we are fighting for and why. At these times we might step out of ourselves and observe in … Continue reading
In some conflicts we rise to the occasion when differences arise between us and others – by strongly asserting our views or using mean and hurtful techniques. In others we may more passively express what is important to us. There … Continue reading