Often when things provoke us we react without thought. We say hurtful and retaliatory things. And we seem to feel justified in fighting fire with fire. The results are lethal burning for both of us. With what else may we … Continue reading
Have you ever had someone comment on the look on your face as the sure sign you are angry? For many, such looks say it all and it feels like a clear message, such as “don’t mess with me”. As … Continue reading
When we are in conflict many of us take on a voice that has a distinct tone, decibel, intonation, etc. Those who know us recognize it and it alone can be enough to escalate the dissension. We may not even … Continue reading
Some of us are more comfortable than others at reaching out after a conflict. Timing, feeling ready, courage and other factors determine when and whether to initiate a clarifying and mending conversation with the other person. What needs to be … Continue reading
Many of us are able to identify the types of behaviours, actions, attitudes, etc. that lead to conflict. However, the root of why certain ‘hot buttons’ provoke us is not always clear. As a consequence, we lack the wherewithal to … Continue reading