Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

At times the other person in our conflicts might try to make amends and we feel resistant. It may be because we need more than she or he says by way of apologizing. Or, it may be too long after … Continue reading →

Conflict can bring out the worst in us. We may get caught up in the negative dynamics and lose track of what we are fighting for and why. At these times we might step out of ourselves and observe in … Continue reading →

In some conflicts we rise to the occasion when differences arise between us and others  – by strongly asserting our views or using mean and hurtful techniques. In others we may more passively express what is important to us. There … Continue reading →

Conflict with some people can lead us to consider whether the relationship is worth salvaging. That is, at times we realize our differences in values, expectations and needs are so vast and the schism too huge to bridge. At other … Continue reading →

What sometimes leads to conflict is saying “no” to something. What also leads to conflict is not saying “no”. In either case, at least one of us feels some sort of resentment when the word “no” comes up in an … Continue reading →