Author Archives: Cinnie Noble
Say “No”
What sometimes leads to conflict is saying “no” to something. What also leads to conflict is not saying “no”. In either case, at least one of us feels some sort of resentment when the word “no” comes up in an … Continue reading
Assumptions
One of the things that often leads to and perpetuates interpersonal conflict is making assumptions about the other person and her or his intent. Such attributions are usually full of blame and they become increasingly negative the more we experience … Continue reading
Projecting Our Stuff
When we think about it, there are times we find fault with the other person for things we do. We may attribute motives that are not theirs to own. We may criticize behaviours and characteristics we demonstrate. It just may … Continue reading
Nonsense or No-Sense
Sometimes in conflict we determine the other person’s perspective as ‘nonsense’. Perhaps, it isn’t ‘nonsense’. That is, something that seems to be ‘nonsense’ to us likely makes sense to the other person. Asking for clarity on her or his point … Continue reading
Proflict Not Conflict
Call me an idealist but I wonder sometimes if the word proflict (as it applies to interpersonal conflict) was used rather than conflict if we would see our arguments, fights, etc. as more positive. From wherever the negative connotations of … Continue reading
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