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Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

Stew in Your Own Juices

The other day a colleague (I’ll call her Janet) told me she and a co-worker (I’ll call him David) had a heated disagreement about a work matter. Janet went on to say that David called her a few hours after … Continue reading

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Assumptions – Are They Necessary?

On a recent post on the Conflict Coaching Guild on LinkedIn I posed the following question: “Generally-speaking, a common reaction – when we are provoked by something another person says or does (or doesn’t say or do) – is to … Continue reading

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Don’t ‘Should’ on Yourself or Others

Have you had the experience when a friend, colleague or family member tries to impose their beliefs, needs, values, or expectations on you regarding a way you handled a situation? I have never been fussy about sentences that start with … Continue reading

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Reason or Excuse?

I have been thinking about when I hear someone explaining their rationale for saying or doing something that has upset or provoked me or another person. I realize that at times it sounds like an excuse and at other times … Continue reading

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If I had it to do over…

I have heard the statement “If I had it to do over …” in many contexts, including about choices of partners, careers, schooling, places to live, and so on. This week’s blog is about how this preamble arises in some … Continue reading

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