Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

The visual of a spiral when referring to conflict can be a daunting sight and we may see ourselves caught in it, whether we are spiralling up or down. Spiralling down implies things are taking a route that deflates us … Continue reading →

Many metaphors are used to describe interpersonal conflict and our reactions. Some relate to war (shooting someone down), animals (the elephant in the room), and even food (peeling back an onion). These and others provide idiomatic expressions that are useful … Continue reading →

When we anticipate dissension we often brace ourselves in ways that don’t really help the dynamic. It seems at these times we are on the defensive and even have tunnel vision about our expectations. This often means we remain closed … Continue reading →

When someone objects to our perspective we equate it with rejection. That is, we equate the intent and experience them as one and the same. Maybe, it’s the way the viewpoint is said or it’s our inability to hear the … Continue reading →

Though we don’t always admit it, many of us experience shame when in conflict. We may be embarrassed or ashamed about what we said or did or didn’t say or do. We may also feel shame when the other person … Continue reading →