Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

Though we don’t always admit it, many of us experience shame when in conflict. We may be embarrassed or ashamed about what we said or did or didn’t say or do. We may also feel shame when the other person … Continue reading →

We sometimes use the expression “getting over a conflict” to refer to being able to put it behind us and move on. The distancing implies we are also above the conflict or past it. In either case, there is a … Continue reading →

It can be irritating to listen to people (us included) who speak and act like a “know-it-all”. There is a righteousness and arrogance about it that can lead to and exacerbate a conflict. The tendency to speak like a “know-it-all” … Continue reading →

Criticism, like many other “isms”, usually offends. It tends to derail constructive communications and can lead to a breakdown in the relationship. Many times what is being criticized doesn’t need to be or sound like a put down at all. … Continue reading →

The uncertainty of what could happen by raising a potentially contentious issue adds to the angst we experience about doing so. How we frame the matter and being prepared to respond to possible push back all affect if and whether … Continue reading →