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Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

PUULLEASE!

As we know, the word please is usually meant to be a polite statement that accompanies a request of another. With a drawn out pronunciation and sarcastic intonation, this word can turn quickly into an expression that reflects disgust, disapproval, … Continue reading →

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Get Over Yourself

There are times when we are in a conversation with another person that we take the ‘high road’. This shows up in a number of ways and today’s blog looks at the ill effects such an approach can have. We … Continue reading →

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When Silence is Golden

As with many proverbs, the origin of “silence is golden” is not definite. The first example of it in the English language was apparently from the poet Thomas Carlyle who translated the phrase from German in Sartor Resartus in 1831. … Continue reading →

Posted in Listening, Reactions | 4 Comments

Mending Fences

Some research on the expression “mending fences” indicates that the derivation is from the proverb “Good fences make good neighbours”. It is apparently listed by the Oxford Dictionary of Quotations as a mid-17th century idiom. My source states that Robert … Continue reading →

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The Conflict Iceberg

The metaphor of an iceberg has commonly been used as a metaphor about conflict. This is on the basis that there are things above the surface that show themselves and then, there is all that is going on underneath. Compared … Continue reading →

Posted in Consequences, Emotions in Conflict, Facing Conflict | 8 Comments