Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

I Didn’t Mean it That Way

Posted on March 11, 2014 by Cinnie Noble

It seems statements that go like, “I didn’t mean it that way” are ones we use when something we said or how we said it is misinterpreted by another person and offends her or him. Or, it may be a … Continue reading →

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Seeing Red

Posted on March 4, 2014 by Cinnie Noble

The colour red is a symbol for many different things, such as blood, a signal to stop, heat, and a warning. In the conflict context we sometimes use the expression seeing red to describe our reaction to something another person … Continue reading →

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Judging Others

Posted on February 25, 2014 by Cinnie Noble

When a judge in a court makes a decision on legal issues in dispute she or he considers many things depending on the situation. It may be the relevant case law, statutes, written and oral evidence provided, witness statements, and … Continue reading →

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Stonewalling in Conflict

Posted on February 18, 2014 by Cinnie Noble

Similar in some ways to the idiom ‘beating around the bush’ described in a previous ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) blog, the expression stonewalling refers to the tendency to avoid responding to a question or to be evasive. For me though, stonewalling seems … Continue reading →

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Getting Bent Out of Shape

Posted on February 11, 2014 by Cinnie Noble

I have often heard this idiom – getting bent out of shape – when people talk about their reactions or the other person’s when in conflict. Several sources say this expression means to take offense, to become angry, agitated, or … Continue reading →