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I saw this quote in a restaurant and it gave me a big smile. It’s an occupational hazard that I see quotes such as these through a conflict management lens. As it happens, I considered this one ‘blog-worthy’!

In actual fact, it’s likely that our physical state can add to our emotional state when we become provoked, and not help our responses and how we hear things. Feeling hungry, fatigued, achy, unwell, stressed and other states of unbalance and vulnerability may well motivate us to react quicker and with more vehemence. When this is the case, we might act in ways we regret and provoke others into reactions (that they, too, may regret).

For this week’s Conflict Mastery Quest(ions) blog, consider a time when you know your physical state contributed to an interpersonal conflict:

  • What was the situation?
  • What about your physical state contributed to your reaction?
  • In what ways did your physical state contribute, i.e. what did you say or do?
  • What happened between you and the other person as a consequence of your reaction?
  • What would you have preferred to say or do?
  • How did you explain yourself and your reaction, if you did? What understanding, if any, did the other person demonstrate in response to your explanation?
  • What other physical states can you think of that have contributed to interacting in ways that are unproductive?
  • What are the lessons you are learning from these questions?
  • What else occurs to you as you consider these questions?
  • What insights do you have?


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