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Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

Doing something about your conflict

Posted on June 25, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

Several years ago I began asking friends, family members, colleagues and clients what stops them from trying different things to be able to improve how they manage conflict. Of course, their answers varied. While situations and those involved elicit different … Continue reading →

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Telling Tales Out of School

Posted on June 18, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

I don’t recall the first time I heard the expression “telling tales out of school”. When I searched for the meaning of this expression, I discovered this specific statement is the oldest of three expressions of the same ilk (“talking … Continue reading →

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Pick Your Battles

Posted on June 11, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

You have likely heard the expression “pick your battles” and know the gist of its meaning. I have said this at times to friends and colleagues who find themselves in a number of disagreements about a number of matters – … Continue reading →

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Throwing Dirt

Posted on June 4, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

When in conflict we commonly turn our negative energy on the other person in various ways. Examples may be by gossiping about her or him, blaming, name-calling, and generally saying counterproductive and mean-spirited things to and about her or him. … Continue reading →

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“That’s Not Fair”

Posted on May 28, 2013 by Cinnie Noble

One of the common statements that occurs in conflict is, “that’s not fair”. It may be a response to an action that is seen – according to our sensibilities, values, and beliefs – as wrong. It may be an emotional … Continue reading →

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