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The Silent Treatment

One of the ways that some people manage conflict is by using the ‘silent treatment’. This expression refers to “Maintenance of aloof silence toward another as an expression of one’s anger or disapproval”. The same source says this phrase is … Continue reading →

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“I Wish I Hadn’t Said That”

There are times in our interpersonal conflicts that – after the fact – we state things like, “I wish I hadn’t said that”. This is along the lines of “If I had it to do over”. It is often a … Continue reading →

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Stew in Your Own Juices

The other day a colleague (I’ll call her Janet) told me she and a co-worker (I’ll call him David) had a heated disagreement about a work matter. Janet went on to say that David called her a few hours after … Continue reading →

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Assumptions – Are They Necessary?

On a recent post on the Conflict Coaching Guild on LinkedIn I posed the following question: “Generally-speaking, a common reaction – when we are provoked by something another person says or does (or doesn’t say or do) – is to … Continue reading →

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Don’t ‘Should’ on Yourself or Others

Have you had the experience when a friend, colleague or family member tries to impose their beliefs, needs, values, or expectations on you regarding a way you handled a situation? I have never been fussy about sentences that start with … Continue reading →

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