JUST LIKE THAT!
It’s an understatement to say that our lives can change in a blink of an eye! The lack of predictability of everyday life and both the potential heart ache and the joys from the unexpected are always there. Yet, in general, many of us don’t consciously live, in anticipation of something bad or something good about to happen in our day- to-day lives. Having said that there are certainly many of us who, on a regular basis, worry about and anticipate worse case scenarios about a range of matters – with and without cause. There are also many of us who constantly live in hopes of best case scenarios even against all odds.
Optimistic versus pessimist personality types may, in part, explain our mindset and ways we cope and navigate our lives when -‘just like that’-something changes. And, of course, our mindsets can help or hinder now we react and to what extent we call on our inner resources or others to be able to manage the unexpected. This includes an unexpected conflict with someone!
This week’s Conflict Mastery Quest(ions) blog invites you to consider a conflict that erupted totally unexpected – much to your surprise and consternation – when answering the questions below. That is – seemingly out of nowhere- a friend, colleague, family member, boss (or anyone else)- engages you in a dispute about something you said or did that upset them and you had no idea this was brewing.
- What was the scenario when- just like that -you were faced with the realization that you had upset someone?
- What specifically did the person accuse you of saying or doing?
- If there is truth to their accusation(s) what are the truths?
- What motivated you at the time to act as you did or say what you did that upset the other person?
- What do you think the person misinterpreted about your actions or what you said?
- What did you observe was the impact on the other person?
- What – did you want that person to know that they ultimately seemed to understand? What didn’t they understand?
- What did you hear or glean about the nature of the intentions the person attributed to you (regarding what you said or did)?
- What do you want the other person to know that you don’t think they do?
- What mindset do you think helps to cope with this sort of situation?
- What else occurs to you as you consider these questions?
- What insights do you have now that you didn’t have before you answered these questions?
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