We sometimes use the expression “getting over a conflict” to refer to being able to put it behind us and move on. The distancing implies we are also above the conflict or past it. In either case, there is a sort of kinesthetic movement inherent in this language and there is a further implication that we may have also been able to get under it.
When you consider a specific conflict you got over, in what ways have you been able to get “under” it?