Since experiencing high emotions in conflict usually affects our ability to think clearly, we may attribute negative motives that are not based in reality. At these times it can be challenging to respond reflectively rather than react ineffectively. Being thoughtful in conflict has at least two sides then – using our brains to think out what is happening and using our compassion to think out where the other person is coming from.
How might you be thoughtful in both ways in a conflict you are or were experiencing?