Go and Come In Peace
When my mother was alive, she would always say “go and come in peace” whenever I traveled. As an avid traveler I heard the phrase a lot, and I must say I miss its resounding message. The expression was one of a number of mom’s signature ones that had to variously do with being careful, not getting into trouble or hurt by the circumstances I might encounter, enjoying the experience, staying calm in the face of any adversity, and being happy with my adventures throughout the journey.
It occurred to me, as I was recalling this expression, that saying “go and come in peace” is a good way of suggesting to ourselves and others to approach interpersonal conflicts. That is, I am thinking that if we go into difficult communications and situations with a peaceful premise and mindset, we are more likely to come out in a more peaceful state too. I realize this might seem a stretch for some of our fractious situations. At the same time, I wonder how we can reframe our experiences of conflict to improve them.
This week’s Conflict Mastery Quest(ions) blog invites you to consider this phrase – “go and come in peace” – as you bring to mind a situation you are about to approach that has you feeling unsettled.
- What is the situation?
- What is unsettling you most about talking to the other person about it?
- What does going into the conversation in peace mean to you?
- How might you reframe the situation, your concerns, or your attitude towards the other person to accomplish a peaceful approach?
- How might you approach the situation in a peaceful way?
- What is likely to transpire that could result in a negative reaction for you during the conversation?
- What might be a peaceful response at that time (if the above occurs)? What else could you say to maintain a peaceful way of interacting?
- How might you end the conversation in a peaceful way?
- What other ways may you come to this conversation in peace?
- What other ways may you leave this conversation in peace?
- What else occurs to you as you consider these questions?
- What insights do you have?
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