A ‘hot button’ for some of us is when people act aloof – defined by the Conflict Dynamics Profile as “people who isolate themselves, do not seek input from others or are hard to approach”. When this happens we may also attribute other characteristics to people we perceive this way. This includes that they are arrogant, uncaring, snobby and so on. One reaction is to become aloof too – mirroring the very behaviour we do not like. See also Projecting Our Stuff.
In what ways do you reflect the very same ‘hot button’ that irritates you?