What sometimes leads to conflict is saying “no” to something. What also leads to conflict is not saying “no”. In either case, at least one of us feels some sort of resentment when the word “no” comes up in an interaction, and as a consequence it feels like a “no-win” position to be in. And yet, when we say “no” to something, we are saying “yes” to something else.
What are saying “yes” to when you are saying “no” to the other person about something?